How do you Define a friend? by Aarushi Tiwari

How do you Define a friend? How warm is their personality? My definition is most likely to be entirely different to mine - which proves my point- It is hard making new friends.

You may say this proves nothing. But think about it, is it easier to befriend someone who is similar to you, or totally different?Continue reading my essay to see why I think so.

The first word that comes to one's mind when you hear the word friend is "Trustworthy". To be a good friend, you should be good at keeping a secret. Me? I can't do that. Often, when someone tells me something, I go around, with it at the back of my mind. Soon, i say it out when I least intend to, and soon everyone knows.

Once, my opposite neighbor told me about a lovely, enclosed garden with many butterflies. Of course, I was so excited, I told every one. Soon, it was bulldozed off its vegetation, and the butterflies flew away.

See, I can't keep a secret confidential. Once, I was cycling with one of my acquaintances: Vanessa. I was talking about something when somehow the story changed to something personal that irked her. We never spoke after that.

Keeping of secrets is not the only thing that makes a friend desirable. Another is being "Cool". What is cool for one person may not be so for another. Many people who I am acquainted with only befriend people who fit in to their definition of cool. I hardly ever fit into their definition. According to some of them, I should change. Why should I change for someone else? I am  who I am and will be who I want to be. No one change That. Those who try are on a wild goose chase. 

Finding a friend and fitting into their definition of cool is not easy. But what is even harder is getting along with their friends. I once happened to have a misunderstanding with a friend's friend, and my friend stopped talking to me. We soon drifted away.

 

Even if I do find a like minded person who appreciates me for who I am, it is often so that he or she is apart of a large group. I have nothing against That, but when in the group, all of them talk about subjects of common interest between them. They laugh at things I can't make sense of, as I am new to their group. I feel like the black sheep.

Once I had a friend, Nionika. She was a very talkative girl who it was fun being with. But, when with her other friends, she talked about the dance class they attended together. I constantly felt left out of conversations in the group, and slowly withdrew myself. 

Over the years, I have a few close friends and together we are a group of like-minded, fun-loving tweens.